Bag of Consequences

For parents of kids 3 to 18

Are you tired of making up random consequences every time your kids act up?!

Why make parenting harder?

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01 / The bag

Every tile is predetermined and age-appropriate.

Six packs, ages 3 to 18. Each one has 15 tiles made for that age, plus one Get Out of Trouble Free tile. You and your kid pick the 10 that go in.

  • 3-5 Starter
  • 6-9 Elementary
  • 10-11 Upper Elementary
  • 12-13 Middle School
  • 14-15 High School
  • 16-18 Young Adult

02 / The draw

Warn once, your kid draws a tile, the bag decides.

No making it up on the spot. No arguing about what's fair. The same way, every time.

  1. Warn once
  2. “Bag.”
  3. Draw
  4. Do it
  5. Fresh start

03 / The win

You stay on their side.

Fewer fights, rules that don't change with your mood, and you're not the bad guy anymore.

Grounded in research

People are more willing to accept an outcome they don't like when they trust the process behind it.

04 / The app · coming soon to iPhone and Android

The bag, in your pocket.

Pick your pack, pick your 10 together, and when it's time, say “Bag.” The app keeps the rules, so you don't have to.

Pick your pack

  • StarterAges 3-5
  • ElementaryAges 6-9
  • Upper ElementaryAges 10-11
  • Middle SchoolAges 12-13
  • High SchoolAges 14-15
  • Young AdultAges 16-18
1. Pick your kid's pack

Pick your 10

10 of 15 picked + free pass

  • 15-Minute Time Out
  • Extra Chore
  • No Screen Time (1 hour)
  • Write an Apology
  • Early Bedtime (30 min)
  • Miss One Activity
  • No Treats Today
  • Clean Your Room
  • Practice Kindness Task
  • Lose Favorite Toy (1 day)
  • Read Instead of Play
  • Help Make Dinner
  • No Friend Time Today
  • Fold the Family Laundry
  • No Bike or Scooter Today
2. Pick your 10 together

Try it

Reach in. No peeking.

3. Say "Bag." They draw.

05 / Sound familiar?

Most of us are stuck with at least one of these.

  • Arguments about what's fair, every single time
  • Making up a consequence on the spot, while you're upset
  • Consequences that change with your mood, so they stop working
  • Kids who negotiate everything
  • Feeling like the bad guy, again

The fix isn't a stricter parent. It's a fair process, decided ahead of time, when everybody is calm.

06 / How it works

Four steps, every time.

  1. Pick your 10 together. At a calm moment, you and your kid choose 10 of the 15 tiles for their age. Add the Get Out of Trouble Free tile, and that's your bag.
  2. Warn once, then one word. “If you throw that food on the ground again, it's the bag.” If it happens again, say “Bag.” Your kid draws without looking.
  3. The bag decides. Sometimes the tile fits perfectly, sometimes it's lighter or harsher. No negotiating, no redraws. Your kid does it, and you stay on their side.
  4. Fresh start. The tile goes back in the bag, and everybody moves on.

Why the free pass? A bag full of nothing but punishments is just a threat. One Get Out of Trouble Free tile turns it into something kids will actually walk toward.

All the rules of the bag

07 / Three ways to start

Book, app or wooden tiles.

The book

Bag of Consequences follows the bag from three years old into adulthood. Real situations, the science behind them, and what to try tonight.

Every book order comes with one free age pack in the app.

About the book

The app

Free to download. Use your own tiles for free, or unlock the age pack for your kid, with the lessons for that age, for $9.99.

About the app

Wooden packs

Solid wooden tiles and a drawstring bag, one pack for each age from 3 to 18. Coming soon.

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08 / Questions

Good questions.

What ages is this for?

Three to eighteen. There's a pack for each stage: 3-5, 6-9, 10-11, 12-13, 14-15 and 16-18.

What if the tile doesn't fit what they did?

That's the point. Every tile is fair for your kid's age, and the bag picks. Sometimes it's lighter than what happened, sometimes harsher. Nobody chose it in the moment, so there's nothing to argue about.

What if my kid draws the same tile twice?

That's fine. Every tile goes back in the bag after it's done, so the bag is always the same.

Can I write my own tiles?

Yes, in the free app. The packs work a little differently: we give you 15 age-appropriate tiles and you pick 10 together. My first bag was eleven pieces of paper, and my boys wrote ten of them.

What's the Get Out of Trouble Free tile?

One lucky tile in every bag. It cancels the consequence, but from age five it never cancels making it right, and from age seven it doesn't cover a lie.

Parenting is hard enough. Let the bag decide.

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