Free printables
Print it, fill it in, tape it inside the bag
You don't need anything fancy to start. A bag, some paper, a pen, and a calm half hour. These walk you through it in the same order the book does.
Warning Words Worksheet
The bag comes out after one warning. Before anyone's in trouble, sort what's been happening, then write the warning in the words you'll really say. Do this at a calm time, not right after a fight.
Tile Picking Worksheet by Age
Every pack has fifteen tiles plus the free pass, and your family picks ten. Pick only tiles you'll actually enforce, every time. Here's who picks the tiles at each age.
House Rules Card: One Home
Write this once, in your child's handwriting if they're old enough, and tape it inside the bag.
House Rules Card: Two Homes
Same card, written twice, word for word, once at each kitchen table. Tape one inside each bag.
Family Meeting Agenda (Ages 12 and Up)
Short, calm, under an hour. In two homes, somewhere neutral works well, or a video call.
Teen Responsibility Contract (Senior Year)
Written at the start of the year, for everybody, not drawn as a tile. Two columns: your teen's and yours. Both sign.
House Agreement (Adult Children Living at Home)
No bag for adults. Write this in the first week, at a calm time. Let your adult child draft the first version.
Try This Tonight Checklist
The whole method, start to finish, on one page.